Twilight Pleasure Party

In addition to our Maximizing M2M Pleasure Workshop on Saturday October 25th,

We are also hosting,

Mark and Jallen’s Palm Springs
Twilight Pleasure Party
a Naked Jack-off Gathering for Horny Men

Sunday, October 26th
Doors open from 4:30 to 5:30. Play party from 5:30 to 8:30

Space is limited!
Send your first name and last initial to jallen@rixartz.com to reserve your spot
and we will send you a confirmation with the location.

Cost:
$25 at the door

or
$15 if you pay using PayPal by Fri. Oct. 23
(Go to the Paypal home page and click on the words "send money."
Follow the steps and send your fee to: jallen@rixartz.com )

or
FREE if you attend the MaxM2M Pleasure Workshop on Sat. Oct. 24

Lite snacks and non alcoholic beverages will be served.

Rules of play and engagement:
This gathering is to playfully generate as much sexy pleasure in your body and cock while in the company and camaraderie of a bunch of guys who are doing the same. Although the party hosts (Mark and Jallen) will be doing some lite activities and qusi-rituals to get the par-tay star-ted, you are responsible for your own pleasure.

Street clothes are removed and placed in provided containers (footwear may remain on if you like). Although nudity will be the norm, creativity with cock jewelry, jock straps, leather gear, and the like, is strongly encouraged.

No sucking, fucking, penetration or unwelcome physical advances. Touching, stroking and exploration is done sensitively and respectfully with the approval of those participating. Expressions of boundaries -- eye contact, a gentle blocking of the hand, nodding of the head, verbal statements, “No thank you.” -- are respected and obeyed immediately and without question.

This is an alcohol and drug-free event

No obnoxious behavior. If you have any question whether you behavior is obnoxious, don’t do it - duh! However, no question is too silly. Please ask Mark and/or Jallen without hesitation.

It is the right of the party hosts to ask anyone to leave that can’t seem to follow these guidelines.

Additional reading to get your engine runnin’:

Maximizing your circle jerk by Dr. Jallen Rix
When boys are first experiencing the testosterone-drenched awakening of pubescent sexuality they often can have more sexual energy than they know what to do with. To be more accurate, perhaps they have so much sexual energy that their bodies nearly force them to do something about it. Therefore, it’s somewhat common for young men to play and experiment sexually with those whom they are closest to — other boys. This activity is common the world over, in different societies, and in different histories. Depending on the culture, it can take the form of all kinds of scenarios — a rite of passage into manhood, looking at a big brother’s porn collection, “I’ll show you mine, if you show me yours,” and the ever popular circle jerk.

As guys grow and begin to discover what really stiffens their rods, most of them transition to women since most of them are primarily heterosexual. But for homosexuals, their first male to male experiences can be fond memories if not fodder for a lifetime of fantasy. In fact, with the GLBT community leading the way for sexual rights, liberation and exploration, many a gay man has experienced similar group activities in their adult life as well, whether at sex clubs, bath houses, or play parties.

When it comes to female group masturbation, it is far more rare, unfortunately. In the 70’s, Sexologist and pleasure activist, Betty Dodson had found so much pleasure in clitoral stimulation, she began to lead groud-breaking, female masturbation workshops. Still, so few women have been given permission to enjoy their bodies that workshops like Betty’s are desperately needed today, but few and far between.

On the subject of male affirming seed spilling, no other organization protrudes in my mind more than the San Francisco Jacks, who have been gathering for circle jerks since 1983. Originally they would meet in homes for group self-pleasuring, but as their numbers grew, they moved to rented spaces. Sometimes these spaces were short-lived when the building owners really understood what was going on, so there were periods when they did not meet. Yet, they have endured and these days they meet at the Center for Sex and Culture a couple of times a month.

They have just a few parameters. This is a jack off party, therefore, no sucking or fucking. Furthermore, they require that clothes are checked except for shoes, however, fetish-ware and sexy outfits are encouraged. There is usually anywhere between thirty to fifty men of all ages, shapes and sizes. Mind you, men aren’t just standing in a circle jacking off. This being a party, men converse, mingle, touch each other, and play with each other’s cocks and body parts. Of course, it is all done in a respectful manner. If someone is not into being touched, usually body language, eye contact, and a pleasant, “No thanks” is just fine.

Pleasuring oneself can be a kind of radical self-acceptance, especially when you try it in front of a mirror, or watching yourself on video. It says, “I am worthy of joy. Whatever I look like is sexy and I deserve all the pleasure I can give myself.” Sometimes, when the schedule gets busy, and my attention is being pulled this way and that, spending some quality time petting the ferret is the only activity I purely do for myself. Creating that kind of enjoyment with a group of men takes the affirmation even farther.

When I attend Jacks, not only am I affirming my own acceptance by giving myself pleasure. I am doing it with the full acceptance and affirmation of a group of men. I have seen a man on his knees, cock raised, hard and tied tightly with leather, while another man stands over him, showering his load across the kneeling man’s face and chest. I have stood with my head on a man’s shoulder and his head on mine — stiff dicks in hand, our bodies in sync. I have stroked an old man’s mushroom head and the look on his face — we did not stop staring into each other’s eyes — was so joyful, it’s as if I gave him eternal life. I tell him, “Soak it up, baby!” I have reclined in a chair with men’s hands all over me, like I was the levitating table at a seance. I surrendered every inch of my body to receive all the pleasure I could absorb, and I release it, too. We are comrades. We are witnesses. We are advocates, and we are self-pleasure sex pals. The room is full of power, love, excitement and sweat. And it is very good.

Sharing the good stuff by Dr. Jallen Rix
At a recent sex party I joined in with a group of guys for a circle jerk. A dozen or so of us were laid out on couches and chairs, reclining on mattresses, on our knees and standing. All of us naked. All of us raging hard. There wasn’t a lot of groping except of our own respective cocks. Looking around the room, the view literally vibrated with energy, like when half of the sun ripples on the horizon. Facial expressions and moans said that everyone was attempting to delay orgasm as long as possible, but it was truly an athletic challenge, since we all were stroking our cocks so passionately. Every so often someone would start to go over the edge. We all could see it coming and when the man’s cum hit the air, the eruption of camaraderie sounded like a locker room after winning the big game. Smelt like it, too! What can I say? We all knew what to do to make the winning play, and no one else could have done it better.

Thoroughly enjoying the experience, I recognized that this unique sexual configuration innately contained several dynamics that guarantee sexual ecstasy, whether in a group, with a partner, or alone. Everyone involved was feeding off the sexual energy, while at the same time we were fueling it. Everyone wanted the best experience we could possibly create, and the more pleasure everyone experienced, the hotter sex got. To be fully present as a group, each one of us was in control of, and responsible for our own sexual fulfillment.

The opportunity to connect in this manner is what I call “Sharing the good stuff.” STGS for short, is not so much a set of steps to successful orgasm, as it is a subtle mindset, a kind of general outlook that results in great sex. Here are the basic ideas:

We greatly influence each other. All of us go through life seeing only a minute portion of the enormous influences we have on the people we constantly interact with. The affect, both positive and negative is unavoidable. Some would like to think they can maneuver through life in a vacuum, leaving no impression on anyone. But this is a panacea, because even our inactivity affects others. The question to ponder would be, is our influence positive or negative?

A determination that sex be positive. Naturally, we at least hope that our presence has an overall positive affect on the world around us. I guess the corny statement would apply, “Making the world a better place,” and STGS chooses to bring this idea to bed with us. In the early 80’s the queer community really did not know if AIDS would kill every gay man on the planet. There was a sense that our quickly dwindling “gay species” could actually die out! Therefore, every person, especially our sex partners had to survive. In essence, we insisted that sex be a positive experience for everyone, but especially for ourselves, despite the challenges. This camaraderie for everyone’s survival and pleasure is STGS.

STGS is taking responsibility for your own sexuality. There’s been a couple of times when partners assume that since I’m a sexologist, they can just lay back, expecting me to do all the work. No, no, no, Grrrl! Don’t go into an experience expecting or dependent on the other person to show you a good time. Don’t wait for your partner to initiate the use of condoms. You use condoms whether s/he initiates it or not. This is just as much about keeping fear, anxiety and guilt away, as it is about keeping disease away.

STGS is like sexually passing on an oral history. Before the written word, virtually all information was passed on verbally, by the face-to-face relationship of storytelling; and it was precisely guarded in the listeners’ memories. I can only imagine the sense of pride a storyteller felt to remember the history correctly, as well as the pleasure everyone gained from hearing it. I’m sure stories changed and whole passages were forgotten, but they certainly didn’t forget the good stuff.

Ultimately, I can’t make anyone have a good experience, all I can do is share the good stuff. I can determine ahead of time that I’ll do my best to make my sex groovin’ baby! I can bump and grind in such a way that when a partner remembers our experience, he’s going to think, “Damn! That was hot lovin’!” This simple fact will never change: You have the opportunity for a positive or negative experience with every person you connect with. So, sexy momma, what’s it gonna be?